*sympathy* I don't have a mother like that but I do have a brother who keeps filling up my 'temporary junk storage' with more and more and more stuff from the charity shop he volunteers at.
If you don't mind a practical suggestion:
One of the reactions I have been trying to grow out of since I was a teenager is the guilty/angry/defensive response to being reminded of something I should have done. I understand why I get upset at "being nagged", but it's not a constructive reaction and it has to do with the contrast between self-image and reality (as well as just the general annoyance of being dragged from something fun to something a bit dull).
So in your shoes, I would probably give her a time-limited (like 5 minutes) opportunity to complete her chore and earn her money when you trip over the bags, and then you can work some other more neutral time on why she feels so upset on being reminded of stuff she said she'd do.
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Date: 2011-07-15 10:30 am (UTC)If you don't mind a practical suggestion:
One of the reactions I have been trying to grow out of since I was a teenager is the guilty/angry/defensive response to being reminded of something I should have done. I understand why I get upset at "being nagged", but it's not a constructive reaction and it has to do with the contrast between self-image and reality (as well as just the general annoyance of being dragged from something fun to something a bit dull).
So in your shoes, I would probably give her a time-limited (like 5 minutes) opportunity to complete her chore and earn her money when you trip over the bags, and then you can work some other more neutral time on why she feels so upset on being reminded of stuff she said she'd do.