The fantasy self! And other people's fantasy of yourself.

My mother insists on taking me shopping for clothes and she picks out things I don't care for. She wants to get me things that aren't my style or I have no use for, so I ask her, "Is this for me or your fantasy daughter?" She puts things back.

And when she, or other people, give me a thing that is for the fantasy me, I thank them and quietly give the thing away. I've usually got a donation bin going so it's not extra steps to get rid of it.